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honestly, i must be the only person on livejournal that thinks that it's worth keeping people on your friends list, even if you don't talk that much (or at all).

because even if you don't talk to them, they're still there, and there was a connection that prompted you to friend them in the first place, and if you cut them out of your social circle then there's always the chance you might miss out on something fantastic.

i guess i'm just old fashioned, and write and read on lj for the sake of reading about the lives of the people i know and care about, and not basing my friendships off of how often they comment.

that's why i don't understand friends cuts posts. sorry if that offends people that do them -- but that's why i won't post one myself. i keep people on my list for the sake of keeping up with their lives, and i'd rather not use comments as a barometer for whether or not people are keeping up with mine.

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Word.

I agree. The only time I do a friends cut if I feel that really, I don't really connect with the person/there was so much drama that we just don't talk anymore. comments were never my motivation for it, cause I rarely comment on my friend's entries XD

I think it's really irritating when you are friends with someone and they kind of stop being friends with you because they don't have exactly similar like anymore. Or atleast come off that way. XD Basicall, the way fandom like, makes people like you less, or you "get out of touch". I don't understand it because I have a ton of friends who are only into some of the things I am into and we all get along just fine. It's not about what you like, it's about being friends.

XD IDK, maybe I'm just stubborn.

I've stopped doing cuts, now, mostly because of that.

but every so often i will, just to clean out old journals of people who i

a) don't know who they are
b) they haven't updated at all or in the last year and we haven't spoken since they asked to friend
or c) they were a dick to a friend.

i understand that, and have done it on occasion myself C:

it's those "i'm doing a friends-cut, comment if you want to stay!" posts that i don't get.

people are at least reading what i have to say on occasion, you know? that's good enough for me; they don't have to comment on it. 8D

[nod]

Yeah, I just gave up on doing those. Mostly because I'm too lazy to clear out my f-list like that, and not to mention... people are on my f-list because I want them there. We may not be the most frequent of commenters to each other, but that isn't the point of friendship at all. It's why I also refuse to respond to other people's "comment to be kept" posts-- I remove people only if they remove me/if they've done something really horrible to me or a friend, and I'd like to think that people have the common sense to get rid of me earlier if they wanted to.

Edited 2008-10-29 18:48 (UTC)

WHO ARE YOU? HAVE WE EVER MET BEFORE?

I don't know. Sometimes people change, too much drama seeps through the cracks, or you drift apart and really don't want to drift back. I can understand the logic behind cuts, even if they make me sad.

But people actually do friends-cut posts like activity checks now? Man, I've missed out.

I only cut people if I a) never connected with them aside from the initial meeting, b) I can't tolerate all the drama surrounding them, or c) they've vanished. It honestly bothers me to have people on my friends list that I never speak to, ever, because it's not much of a friendship and I'm not into the whole FRENZ + 1 thing so many people on LJ seem to care about.

Actually, I found myself doing one recently during the latest re-name wave, simply because I was looking at entries and could no longer distinguish who was who, simply because I never talked to those people and vice-versa. They were just names in my mind, which basically means whatever connection was there initially was now gone. So it seemed apt to move on, so to speak.

imma cut you from my fl unless you comment gurl

Last time I cut someone was because everytime I tried to talk to them vial journal, I was ignored. In the ...half year? I was on their friendlist, I had never spoken to them, and it wasn't even my fault. Other than that, I don't think friends cuts have any significance to them. Yeah. >>

Soras think alike. :

I've never really understood the point of doing friends cuts either. Even if I don't comment much on things, and even if I don't know them that I still like reading what's going on with them, the same way you enjoy hearing what's going on with people you know IRL who maybe you haven't talked with in a month or so.

Of course, that's a little different with, say, someone on your flist who is just a prick to you/others, or someone who's dropped off the face of the internet.

Meeeh, I don't know XD

I NEED to do a friends cut because a lot of people just don't update their journal, or even let me know they're alive. It's one thing to friend someone and then something happens to them/their internet, computer, etc./grow bored of LJ, whatever, but when you see them posting in communities and they have aaaaaaall the time in the world for LJ RPs but haven't said a word to you since like...February? Then why did you friend me? We're suppose to talk and comment on each other's lives, happenings, etc. Not just read about it and go about your business so when I do go "wtf where did that person go", you can go "but I have been reading, baww" to save your ass. This isn't a fanfic XD. I don't expect people to comment on every single post, but when it's been MONTHS since you've said anything to me or done anything in your own journal? Come on. It just starts to get creepy there's someone reading your journal and not saying anything to you about it.

OMG I AM SO OFFENDED, >|

Seriously though, I've done one exactly once; it was after a bout of community drama, but it was also because I had about 20 people on my friends list that I hadn't heard from in at least a year/names I didn't even recognize. Otherwise, I'm not about to do another one.

I only... wait... uh, I don't think I've ever un-added someone except because I had no idea who they were or why I friended them. XD;; SO YEAH. Word.

lol, i think this is the first time I've commented on one of your entries in like two months <3

kind of late here, but it's a security issue with me. sometimes i get paranoid and i just can't help but feel like some people only keep me here just to bathe in my failures (because it seems to be what i write about more often than not) and just. i don't know. i'm a close-knit person. i like input and i'm kind of a hypocrite because usually i'm too much of a pussy to do it myself.

blah blah blah i'm a schizo pussy what else is new. 8|;

I have considered removing some people from my list because I have never really connected with them in all the time we've been LJ "friends". It just feels creepy to continue this way, like I am maintaining a facade for the sake of preserving their egos...or mine. D:

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